Do you honestly ask for feedback?

The Leadership Masterclass


Honest Feedback: The Key to Improvement

After conducting a training session a week ago, my colleague and I picked up the phone to call participants who attended our program. Rather than being blinded by the “trainer’s syndrome” (where trainers walk away thinking that they ran a great program while the participants don’t share the same level of enthusiasm), we asked each person what they enjoyed about the program and what could have been different.


“Feedback is the breakfast of champions” – Ken Blanchard


It is my firm belief that the public will provide honest feedback, only if you dare to ask them what they think about your offer. We can only get better when we listen and re-calibrate ourselves to their inputs on “what is working” and “what could have been different”.

The difficult part is to drop our own ego, listen attentively, and not justify when you receive feedback. I’ve seen many leaders, upon hearing feedback, constantly justify or give reasons why certain things happened. This can sometimes make their team members feel that ‘there’s always a reason for something’ or that you are just not interested in their candid feedback. I do understand there’s a need for a leader to give different views, but it is more important to listen carefully first and not jump in with another reason.

Listening to feedback is also not easy, this is because people can be brutally honest. They can sometimes see through your blindspots, errors in your slides, inconsistencies, or even the extra space you have between the words in your notes.

To me, creating a successful training program, better service levels, more engagement at work, better communication, and many more, first starts with a person carefully listening to the feedback on what worked and didn’t work. Not every project or strategies work well right from the beginning, but it is always a series of deliberate calibration to ensure that it is better than the last time you ran it.


Projects or programs are successful because you calibrate it over time, and this is only possible when you hear unadulterated feedback.


Another Consideration: Most feedback sessions tend to focus on the negatives.

People often highlight your shortcomings but don’t say much about your successes.

However, knowing where we have succeeded is just as important, if not more so. By focusing more on what worked and reducing what didn’t, we can create even more success.


How to solicit positive feedback from people?

Here are some tried and tested ones. Ask the following questions:

  1. What went well for us?

  2. What are we proud of?

  3. What are some things that we need to do more of?

These positive questions must come first before you start asking others what can be better.

This will help your feedback session be more optimistic and give you a clear understanding of the strategies that you have employed that worked. After this, you can start to ask what can be better and this is where you need to shut up and listen….